Dealing with Tantrums, Tempers and Meltdowns Consciously
We’ve all been there… the heat in the moment.
Our children flip out, meltdown, scream, shout, and see red.
It feels helpless and leaves you wondering where you are going wrong.
Or, it fills you with rage and you fall into having a tantrum as well.
In this course I’m focusing in on giving you balance, clarity and connection within that moment and then how to create a lesson of emotional awareness and self knowledge within the temper tantrum itself. We will be doing this through the 7 lessons, which each have a video lesson under 15 minutes and a PDF worksheet attached.
You’ll have tools to create a powerful parenting moment where your child will have a deeper sense of knowing themselves and a toolbox for the next time!
Introduction and Groundwork
As parents, nothing can throw us more off balance than a full blown tantrum.
So, in this short course I’m going to be giving you some practical tools to help you “Deal with them”, redirect the energy and find balance again for you and your kids.
In this introduction I’ll explain how we’re basically going to do that… and also make sure you download your first PDF to prepare your path.
Lesson 1 - Your Temper Timeline
Empathy begins by being able to feel the experience of another in one way or another.
Be it when we were little or yesterday, I don’t think there’s one person on earth who hasn’t occasionally lost it.
In order to dive into the true motivation and perspective of your child when they are in a temper or tantrum, the first step is to understand how it feels to be in meltdown mode. In the worksheet on the next page dive past what you see in a temper… and start to ask yourself,
How does it feel?
How do you experience it? What is your build-up…
What is your recovery process?
Lesson 2 - Finding Yourself in the Storm
Before finding yourself in the eye of the storm of a tantrum, it is important to know how to find centre. Consider this like training before a race.
This can be a life long pursuit… but here are 3 simple exercises you can do to find centre in a crunch.
Lesson 3 - Finding your Anchor
In this lesson we are looking for what can serve you as an anchor to get you firmly back in place of heart centre.
Be it a thought, an action or something outside of yourself to focus on, I want you to start to find the things in your life that remind you of who you really are.
Lesson 4 - Your Why
Your why isn’t about their why or how they got there…
Rather it’s the Why of your response.
Often there are a range to whys for not being centred in a storm.
These can include:
- Social judgement.
- Feeling like a failure as a parent.
- Wanting your child to be happy.
- A sense of unpreparedness on how to deal with the emotions well, so wanting the storm to pass.
- Past trauma from how emotions were dealt with when you were little. (ie, how your parents dealt with your tantrums.)
Lesson 5 - Understanding your Child's Emotional Wave
So, in this section we truly dive into the actual moment of the temper experience.
Your child is in a meltdown. Life has collapsed and chaos is the reality IN THIS MOMENT.
This is where the presence and awareness comes in….
Lesson 6 - Recovery mode
When you’ve known the storm has peaked it’s time for that shift in focus…
Here we go.
Time to practice the shift (and yes, this works for any age. We can use this before we actually hit a phase 10 flipout!)
Lesson 7 - Setting Sail Again
(emotional Awareness for your children)
The best moment to “Deal” with tempers, tantrums and meltdowns is AFTER they are over and done with.
Suddenly, these become pathways for growth and new self understanding. Suddenly tools can be offered, which wouldn’t have been understood before. Nothing is more empowering than to find the opportunity in these moments. (Make sure you download the Emotions Workbook from my other course Spiritual Kids as one of these tools to offer.)
* Please note… that tempers in anyone younger than 3 are almost always caused by hunger, tiredness or some physical discomfort. I don’t encourage you to try sitting down and discussing anything of deep nature with a toddler as they live so fully in the moment.